Finding True Happiness in a Relationship

INTRODUCTION:
Relationships like marriage, romance, live together or any of similar kinds can be sustained with a happy note if some of the secret rules are followed. Relationship is completely subjective and no clear cut rules can be executed on it, yet following certain guidelines may help proceeding happiness in a relationship.

Many of these, so called, rules are based on the life experience of many happy couple and also the observation of people. When two people get into relationships, many of them wish for lasting relationships. But pathetically, a good number of them go apart after a while, in search of new partners. Let us see the secrets that constitute long lasting relationships or ever remaining relationships.

Breakup and Divorce are not the Solution

When asked about the best possible way of resolving the issues in relationships or marriage, many people may comment that breakup or a divorce is the best possible method of putting an end to all the troubles in a relationships. It is the biggest mistake people commit.

The reason for increased divorce rate is analyzed as the mentality of people who even before getting into a relationship think divorce as means of solving possible issues in it. Divorce is never an option but it's the utmost decision to be taken in life only at an inevitable situation. Do not even think about a breakup or marriage whenever you confront with minor issues in relationships. Issues are just byproducts of the happiness experienced in the relationships.

No Perfect Relationships, but Perfect Situations

No one can be considered in a perfect relationship, how happy the couple is, as happiness in a relationship is just the happiness of the situations created by the partners. No relationship, as a whole, is destined to be jovial and satisfying. There can be moments of happiness and moments of struggles.
The couple who learns the secrets of balancing both happiness and struggles wins the life and enjoys the best possible relationship and life. When in tension or issues, many people may think that they are fated to fall in to wrong relationship, and at the same time ignore the possible chances of making each moments in life happy by understanding the partner a bit more and adjusting a bit more.

Never be Afraid or Make Him/Her Afraid
Another secret of happy relationship lies in being open and frank with the partner. Do not feel afraid to express you mind to the partner and never ever make him/her afraid of you to tell out the mind. When people communicate with each other many of the issues can be melted down. when issues are  kept in mind for several days, such can take the forms of anger, frustration, dislike etc., and get expressed in the most undesirable manners. Let the communication between the partners be a frequent element and no one should hold the words when he/she really wants to talk.


Love Defined is Respect and Care

 

You can just tell that you love your partner but can never express the love as it is. There is no emotion like love, but it comes as a package which includes, respect, care, share, dedication, forgiveness etc., express the emotions whenever possible to make the other person feel the intensity of your love. Do not be a miser in loving the partner and let your love be unconditional. It is rightly said that love is defined as respect and care. When the partner feels that you do not care for him/her or do not give him/her the due respect, the person may think of an alternative to you.

Always Support Each Other


Never ever leave your partner unsupported. Whatever be the opinions and ideas, know that you are the only one he/she can lean for support. When both of you are alone, you can argue among yourself on points you disagree with the other one, but in public both of you have only one mind. Holding the hands, especially when he/she is sad or broken, is helpful to convey you care for the person. Once you have decided to live together, then no questions of separation may arise, even in the opinions.

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How to Stop a Masturbation Addiction (Getting in the Right Mindset) Part 2

1.Stop punishing yourself. Consider it this way: if you're constantly dwelling on the disapproval that some may feel about masturbating, then you're still thinking about masturbation all the time. Don't just trade in your masturbation addiction for another one — they're so closely related that you won't resolve anything. Instead, acknowledge that this has been a problem for you, but you will persevere to stop the impulse.
 

• Remember, you're human, and humans masturbate. Some studies show that up to 95% of males and 89% of females admit that they have masturbated.[1] You'll feel less shame once you realize you are not alone.

•     Resist the urge of sinking into despair by remembering the times spent feeling sorry for yourself when it could have been spent relinquishing your addiction.

2. Don't believe the myths about the harms of masturbation. If you want to stop your masturbation addiction, then you should do it for reasons that are personal and moral, not for reasons that are health-related. The only real health problem that can be caused is pain and rawness from chronic masturbation, but that can go away if you stop touching yourself so frequently. Here are some things that masturbation will not do to your body:

•     Masturbation will not cause infertility, premature ejaculation, or impotence.
•     Masturbation will not cause insanity.
•     Masturbation will not cause blindness, or even eye floaters.
•     Masturbation will not cause frequent urination.
•     Masturbation does not affect facial hair, growth, facial features, kidneys, testicles,or skin problems, or cause any major physical issues! These are all myths.

3. Know that it will get better. If you have the faith that you can really find a way to stop your masturbation addiction, then you'll be able to do it. Maybe your goal isn't to stop masturbating completely, but just to limit your masturbation to a healthy amount, such as once or twice a day. That's perfectly fine, too. If you have the belief that you really can win this battle, you'll be much more likely to succeed than if you're constantly second-guessing yourself.

•     That being said, there may be days when you have relapses. If you find yourself masturbating one day when you planned not to, don't think, "Oh, well, I've ruined this day anyway," and then continue compulsively masturbating for the rest of the day and then starting fresh the next. This is about as logical as thinking that you should eat an entire pie because you've had one cookie and have ruined your diet for the day anyway.

4. Know when to seek help. If you've tried everything and just can't seem to get your addiction under control, it might be time to tell someone else about your problem and ask for assistance. Don't feel ashamed, and remember that many people have similar problems like an addiction. Seeking help is a brave action, and most people you ask will see it as such.

•  Ask your religious leader for guidance. If you belong to a church, consider asking your local clergy for help. Keep three things in mind: First, these people become part of the clergy because they're dedicated to helping their congregations. Second, they've probably already assisted someone with a masturbation addiction before. Lastly, they're bound by strict confidentiality. Request a private appointment with your priest, pastor, bishop, imam, rabbi, or other religious leader, and see if his or her advice can help you.

•     Make an appointment with a medical professional. Counselors, psychologists and psychiatrists are all trained to help people with varying levels of addiction. Start by seeing a therapist in your area, who can assess your addiction and refer you to more specialized help if necessary. Several treatment options are available, from cognitive-behavior therapy to medication.

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How to Stop a Masturbation Addiction(Staying Busy and Focused) Part 1

This Article will teach you how to stop masturbation by staying busy and focused and by getting in the right mindset.
 

Key Points

•     Find an outlet by being creative, playing sports, or finding a new hobby.
•     Make a plan for avoiding masturbation and limiting your time alone.
•     Stop watching porn and install porn-blocking software.
•     Stop punishing yourself and know that things will improve.
•     Know when to seek professional help.

1. Find another outlet for your time and energy. Fill your life with engaging activities. The excitement of doing something different can help replace the urge to masturbate, and you'll have a go-to distraction next time you're tempted. Try some of these options:

•     Be creative. The process of turning sexual urges into creative output (called sublimation) is something on which monks and sages have relied upon for centuries. Start writing, learn to play a musical instrument, paint, draw, or do whatever else makes you feel like you're doing something productive.

•     Play sports. It takes discipline and persistence to excel at a sport. Develop an interest like running or swimming, or a group sport like soccer, football, basketball, or tennis. Also, any form of exercise will help you relieve tension, feel happier, and to make you focus on your physicality in a positive way. Yoga is another form of exercise that can help you feel more relaxed and less likely to feel the sudden urge to masturbate.

•     Eat a healthy diet. Fruits and vegetables have healthy effects on the body and provide nutrients necessary to increase your energy to make you more active throughout the day. Minimize consumption of aphrodisiac foods, such as oysters, salmon, chili peppers, coffee, avocados, banana, and chocolate.

•     Find a new hobby, or cultivate a skill. Learning something that takes a while to master can refocus your brain on the delayed gratification of achieving goals instead of the instant gratification of masturbation. Try skills like cooking, woodshop, archery, baking, public speaking, or gardening.

•     Volunteer your time. Devote your energy to helping teens who've been less fortunate than you, such as working at a shelter, tutoring low-income students, cleaning up blighted areas, or raising money for a good cause. You'll get an altruistic feeling from helping others, and you'll have less time to stray from your goals.

•     Get enough sleep. Urges to masturbate can be exceedingly strong, so make sure you have enough energy to fight those urges. Try to get at at least 8 hours of sleep. If you frequently forget to go to bed at a reasonable hour, set an alarm to remind you.

2. Make a plan for avoiding masturbation during your "go to" times of day. If you have problems before going to bed or in the shower, refrain from any temptation to masturbate. For instance, if it's a problem late at night, drop to the floor and do push-ups until you're too exhausted to do anything but fall asleep. If you find shower time too tempting, start using ice cold water only — you won't want to be in there for long; cold shower will offer the added benefit of saving you time and water.

•     If you always masturbate when you get home from school, make sure to have a solid plan to stave off any boredom you may feel. If you have so little to do that your mind frequently wanders to sexual thoughts, occupy your schedule. You'll find it gets easier to avoid masturbation if you're too busy or tired to spare any energy for distractions.

•     If you're tempted to masturbate in the morning, try to sleep with more than just one layer of clothing so touching yourself is more of an effort.

3. Limit your solitude. If you masturbate frequently because you feel lonely, find ways to be as socially engaged as possible. This means that you should join as many clubs or activities as you can, accept and give more invitations to people, and go out of your way to make more friends. If you want to date someone, consider asking a friend to set you up or join an online dating site.

•     Another thing you can do is to limit the times when you are likely to be home alone. If you tend to masturbate in the hour or two before your parents get home from work, go for a walk during that time, or do your homework in a coffee shop.

•     Even if all of your friends are busy, you can still limit your impulse to masturbate by going out in public. For instance, instead of watching the game at home by yourself, watch it at a sports bar. Even if you're not hanging out with friends, you will not be alone, ultimately having no time for masturbation.

 4. Stop watching porn on your computer. One of the reasons you may be masturbating so much is that you know that you can access porn within seconds if you desire. However, if you don't have the willpower to stop looking at the porn on your own, then you may have to take other measures to get the job done:

•  Consider installing porn-blocking software on your computer. Of course you will know the password to bypass the blocking function, but just having it pop up will remind you of your priorities. You can also type a random password in a text file, copy and paste it when you enter your password and verify it, then delete the text file. Then, you will not be able to know the password of your own porn-blocker. This is the best way to keep you strong and spare you the struggle.

•     If you have the tendency to masturbate looking at porn on the computer, try moving your computer into a room where others can see you.

•     If you have a physical collection of porn, dispose of it ASAP.

•     Get Help. Porn addiction apps such as Brainbuddy are designed to rewire your brain so you crave real connection instead of porn.

 

5. Be persistent and patient. Stopping a masturbation addiction won't hit you like a lightning bolt. It's a process that requires commitment, and you might make mistakes or relapse on occasions. The real struggle is persevering, so commit now that you won't let little mistakes stand in your way.

• Set up a reward system. Bribe yourself to stay on-track with rewards for good behavior. For instance, if you can go two whole weeks without masturbating once, treat yourself to a small indulgence like a new game or an ice cream cone.
• Reward systems are great; just make sure not to reward yourself with the very thing you're trying to conquer, which, in this case, is masturbating. If you say that you'll reward yourself with masturbation after a week of not doing it, then you'll only be turning masturbation into something that you really, really want even more.

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YOU ARE WONDERFULLY AND FEARFULLY MADE

A crow lived in the forest and was absolutely
satisfied in life. But one day he saw a swan.
“This swan is so white,” he thought, “and I am so
black. This swan must be the happiest bird in
the world.”
He expressed his thoughts to the swan.
“Actually,” the swan replied, “I was feeling that I
was the happiest bird around until I saw a parrot,
which has two colors. I now think the parrot is
the happiest bird in creation.” The crow then
approached the parrot. The parrot explained, “I
lived a very happy life until I saw a peacock. I
have only two colors, but the peacock has
multiple colors.”
The crow then visited a peacock in the zoo and
saw that hundreds of people had gathered to see
him. After the people had left, the crow
approached the peacock. “Dear peacock,” the
crow said, “you are so beautiful. Every day
thousands of people come to see you. When
people see me, they immediately shoo me away.
I think you are the happiest bird on the planet.”
The peacock replied, “I always thought that I
was the most beautiful and happy bird on the
planet. But because of my beauty, I am
entrapped in this zoo. I have examined the zoo
very carefully, and I have realized that the crow
is the only bird not kept in a cage. So for past
few days I have been thinking that if I were a
crow, I could happily roam everywhere.”
That’s our problem too. We make unnecessary
comparison with others and become sad. We
don’t value what God has given us. This all leads
to the vicious cycle of unhappiness. Learn to be
happy in what you have instead of looking at
what you don’t have. There will always be
someone who will have more or less than you
have. Person who is satisfied with what he/she
has, is the happiest
person in the world. That's
how we are us human beings and always be
proud to be your self

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OVERCOMING THE DECEIT OF THE DEVIL//By Praisekingsblog

I came around after God has passed his judgement on Adam and Eve. These were the simple questions I ask them:
1. Were your eyes blind when God created you? For the Devil told them that their eyes will be OPEN
Genesis 3:5
KJV; God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.

2. Now that your eyes are open, what do you see? (SHAME), GUILT FEAR, DOWN CASTED, ever since your eyes have been open have you become like god?

3. In what image were the both of you made?

Genesis 1:26
KJV: And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness:
For the Devil had earlier told told them they will be like gods.

Now the lesson is this since you start obeying the devil how many peace have you find how joyful are you? For moses would say I preferred to suffer with my fellow Jew than to enjoy the pleasures of Egypt /sin for a while. The world's joy is for a while but the joy that comes from knowing the Lord Jesus Christ brings peace and joy in the holy ghost, serving the Lord. Are you still ruled by you selfish ambitions. Colossians 3:1 say
1
KJV: If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God.

2
KJV:Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth.

Be determine today to obey God. For Jesus told Satan it is written
Matthew 4:10

KJV: Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve.

Make this scripture your determination this year.
Philippians 4:8-9
8
KJV: Finally brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

9
KJV: Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.

GOD BLESS YOU ALL
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Moral Ethics behavior of Good Home Trained Person

Memory Verse: 1Corin 14:40 “Wherefore, brethren, covet to prophesy, and forbid not to speak with tongues. Let all things be done decently and in order.
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Text: 1Timothy 5:17-18 (The holy Bible) Version.

17 Let the elders that rule well be counted worthy of double honour, especially they who labour in the word and doctrine.
18 For the scripture saith, Thou shalt not muzzle the ox that treadeth out the corn. And, The labourer is worthy of his reward.

Introduction:
Moral Ethics refers to a set of rules that describes acceptable conduct in society. Ethics serve as a guide to moral daily living and helps us judge whether our behavior can be justified.
Ethics refers to society’s sense of the right way of living our daily lives. It does this by establishing rules, principles, and values on which we can base our conduct. The concepts most directly associated with ethics are truth, honesty, fairness, and equity.

Moral and ethical behavior expected from a person that has a good a good training are:
1.    Good conduct towards Elders
How to handle elder is one of the issue that every good parents are to address in the up-bringing of their children. Prov.22:6 God expect younger once to treat Elders with great humility 1pt 5:5. For example;

a.    If you see an Elder with an heavy load you shouldn’t be told to assist before you do so.
b.    Stand up for an elder when he/she do not have seat.
c.    Greet an elder first before he/she greet you.
d.    Give way for an elder when both of you meet in a narrow way. Etc. 
 
It is unethical for workers and ministers, seeing their pastor carry heavy load and pretends not seeing it. These load could be physically or logically; logically in the sense that the pastor is engage in several works in the church. People with good moral ethics are expected to assist to help their pastors in order to make the work of God easier for them.
Others rebuke their pastor and speak ill of them and called this boldness. But it is lack of home training.
By the virtue of your pastor’s office is an elder even such is a child you can give birth to. Therefore if he does something wrong, prayerfully bring it to his notice. Heb.13:7, Gal.6:7, Phil.4:10-12
 
2.    Anti-social behavior
It very common among Christian to be disorderly in public places and even in the church. This aptitude show lack of spiritual and home training:
a.    Rushing for food or chair in a large gathering.
b.    Littering the environment with waste.
c.    Reckless talk and lack of good table manner.
d.    Driving against traffic and braking traffic laws.
e.    Improper dressing of any kind. Deut.22:5, 2Corin3:2, Phil.316-18
                                    
                         Questions
1.    How do you relate with those God have put over you?
2.    Mention some ways God expect us to treat elders
3.    How does home training affect the church today?

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