How to Stop a Masturbation Addiction (Getting in the Right Mindset) Part 2

1.Stop punishing yourself. Consider it this way: if you're constantly dwelling on the disapproval that some may feel about masturbating, then you're still thinking about masturbation all the time. Don't just trade in your masturbation addiction for another one — they're so closely related that you won't resolve anything. Instead, acknowledge that this has been a problem for you, but you will persevere to stop the impulse.
 

• Remember, you're human, and humans masturbate. Some studies show that up to 95% of males and 89% of females admit that they have masturbated.[1] You'll feel less shame once you realize you are not alone.

•     Resist the urge of sinking into despair by remembering the times spent feeling sorry for yourself when it could have been spent relinquishing your addiction.

2. Don't believe the myths about the harms of masturbation. If you want to stop your masturbation addiction, then you should do it for reasons that are personal and moral, not for reasons that are health-related. The only real health problem that can be caused is pain and rawness from chronic masturbation, but that can go away if you stop touching yourself so frequently. Here are some things that masturbation will not do to your body:

•     Masturbation will not cause infertility, premature ejaculation, or impotence.
•     Masturbation will not cause insanity.
•     Masturbation will not cause blindness, or even eye floaters.
•     Masturbation will not cause frequent urination.
•     Masturbation does not affect facial hair, growth, facial features, kidneys, testicles,or skin problems, or cause any major physical issues! These are all myths.

3. Know that it will get better. If you have the faith that you can really find a way to stop your masturbation addiction, then you'll be able to do it. Maybe your goal isn't to stop masturbating completely, but just to limit your masturbation to a healthy amount, such as once or twice a day. That's perfectly fine, too. If you have the belief that you really can win this battle, you'll be much more likely to succeed than if you're constantly second-guessing yourself.

•     That being said, there may be days when you have relapses. If you find yourself masturbating one day when you planned not to, don't think, "Oh, well, I've ruined this day anyway," and then continue compulsively masturbating for the rest of the day and then starting fresh the next. This is about as logical as thinking that you should eat an entire pie because you've had one cookie and have ruined your diet for the day anyway.

4. Know when to seek help. If you've tried everything and just can't seem to get your addiction under control, it might be time to tell someone else about your problem and ask for assistance. Don't feel ashamed, and remember that many people have similar problems like an addiction. Seeking help is a brave action, and most people you ask will see it as such.

•  Ask your religious leader for guidance. If you belong to a church, consider asking your local clergy for help. Keep three things in mind: First, these people become part of the clergy because they're dedicated to helping their congregations. Second, they've probably already assisted someone with a masturbation addiction before. Lastly, they're bound by strict confidentiality. Request a private appointment with your priest, pastor, bishop, imam, rabbi, or other religious leader, and see if his or her advice can help you.

•     Make an appointment with a medical professional. Counselors, psychologists and psychiatrists are all trained to help people with varying levels of addiction. Start by seeing a therapist in your area, who can assess your addiction and refer you to more specialized help if necessary. Several treatment options are available, from cognitive-behavior therapy to medication.

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How to Stop a Masturbation Addiction(Staying Busy and Focused) Part 1

This Article will teach you how to stop masturbation by staying busy and focused and by getting in the right mindset.
 

Key Points

•     Find an outlet by being creative, playing sports, or finding a new hobby.
•     Make a plan for avoiding masturbation and limiting your time alone.
•     Stop watching porn and install porn-blocking software.
•     Stop punishing yourself and know that things will improve.
•     Know when to seek professional help.

1. Find another outlet for your time and energy. Fill your life with engaging activities. The excitement of doing something different can help replace the urge to masturbate, and you'll have a go-to distraction next time you're tempted. Try some of these options:

•     Be creative. The process of turning sexual urges into creative output (called sublimation) is something on which monks and sages have relied upon for centuries. Start writing, learn to play a musical instrument, paint, draw, or do whatever else makes you feel like you're doing something productive.

•     Play sports. It takes discipline and persistence to excel at a sport. Develop an interest like running or swimming, or a group sport like soccer, football, basketball, or tennis. Also, any form of exercise will help you relieve tension, feel happier, and to make you focus on your physicality in a positive way. Yoga is another form of exercise that can help you feel more relaxed and less likely to feel the sudden urge to masturbate.

•     Eat a healthy diet. Fruits and vegetables have healthy effects on the body and provide nutrients necessary to increase your energy to make you more active throughout the day. Minimize consumption of aphrodisiac foods, such as oysters, salmon, chili peppers, coffee, avocados, banana, and chocolate.

•     Find a new hobby, or cultivate a skill. Learning something that takes a while to master can refocus your brain on the delayed gratification of achieving goals instead of the instant gratification of masturbation. Try skills like cooking, woodshop, archery, baking, public speaking, or gardening.

•     Volunteer your time. Devote your energy to helping teens who've been less fortunate than you, such as working at a shelter, tutoring low-income students, cleaning up blighted areas, or raising money for a good cause. You'll get an altruistic feeling from helping others, and you'll have less time to stray from your goals.

•     Get enough sleep. Urges to masturbate can be exceedingly strong, so make sure you have enough energy to fight those urges. Try to get at at least 8 hours of sleep. If you frequently forget to go to bed at a reasonable hour, set an alarm to remind you.

2. Make a plan for avoiding masturbation during your "go to" times of day. If you have problems before going to bed or in the shower, refrain from any temptation to masturbate. For instance, if it's a problem late at night, drop to the floor and do push-ups until you're too exhausted to do anything but fall asleep. If you find shower time too tempting, start using ice cold water only — you won't want to be in there for long; cold shower will offer the added benefit of saving you time and water.

•     If you always masturbate when you get home from school, make sure to have a solid plan to stave off any boredom you may feel. If you have so little to do that your mind frequently wanders to sexual thoughts, occupy your schedule. You'll find it gets easier to avoid masturbation if you're too busy or tired to spare any energy for distractions.

•     If you're tempted to masturbate in the morning, try to sleep with more than just one layer of clothing so touching yourself is more of an effort.

3. Limit your solitude. If you masturbate frequently because you feel lonely, find ways to be as socially engaged as possible. This means that you should join as many clubs or activities as you can, accept and give more invitations to people, and go out of your way to make more friends. If you want to date someone, consider asking a friend to set you up or join an online dating site.

•     Another thing you can do is to limit the times when you are likely to be home alone. If you tend to masturbate in the hour or two before your parents get home from work, go for a walk during that time, or do your homework in a coffee shop.

•     Even if all of your friends are busy, you can still limit your impulse to masturbate by going out in public. For instance, instead of watching the game at home by yourself, watch it at a sports bar. Even if you're not hanging out with friends, you will not be alone, ultimately having no time for masturbation.

 4. Stop watching porn on your computer. One of the reasons you may be masturbating so much is that you know that you can access porn within seconds if you desire. However, if you don't have the willpower to stop looking at the porn on your own, then you may have to take other measures to get the job done:

•  Consider installing porn-blocking software on your computer. Of course you will know the password to bypass the blocking function, but just having it pop up will remind you of your priorities. You can also type a random password in a text file, copy and paste it when you enter your password and verify it, then delete the text file. Then, you will not be able to know the password of your own porn-blocker. This is the best way to keep you strong and spare you the struggle.

•     If you have the tendency to masturbate looking at porn on the computer, try moving your computer into a room where others can see you.

•     If you have a physical collection of porn, dispose of it ASAP.

•     Get Help. Porn addiction apps such as Brainbuddy are designed to rewire your brain so you crave real connection instead of porn.

 

5. Be persistent and patient. Stopping a masturbation addiction won't hit you like a lightning bolt. It's a process that requires commitment, and you might make mistakes or relapse on occasions. The real struggle is persevering, so commit now that you won't let little mistakes stand in your way.

• Set up a reward system. Bribe yourself to stay on-track with rewards for good behavior. For instance, if you can go two whole weeks without masturbating once, treat yourself to a small indulgence like a new game or an ice cream cone.
• Reward systems are great; just make sure not to reward yourself with the very thing you're trying to conquer, which, in this case, is masturbating. If you say that you'll reward yourself with masturbation after a week of not doing it, then you'll only be turning masturbation into something that you really, really want even more.

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THE POWER OF THE RIVER PART 1 BY PASTOR PAUL ENENCHE

THIS A POWERFUL MESSAGE YOU COULD EVER GET! IT LIFE TRANSFORMING AND INSPIRING.

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Reno Omokri Reacts To Apostle Suleman Sex Scandal

Those condemning the Founder and President of Omega Fire Ministries, Apostle Johnson Suleman over his alleged romance with Canada-based singer, Stephanie Otobo have been urged to exercise patience as there can be smoke without fire.

A Former Special Adviser to ex-President Goodluck Jonathan on Electronic Media, Reno Omokri said this in reaction to the Sex Scandal involving the clergyman.

Recall that Otobo had recently accused the Edo-born fiery preacher of impregnating and abandoning her.

Following her initial allegation against the preacher, the Canada based singer has continued to release more intimate details about her alleged romance with Suleman.

However, Suleman has since denied the allegations levelled against him.

Reacting to the allegation, Omokri said Nigerians were too hasty in their judgement of the case.

Omokri who believes that Suleman may be innocent of the allegations said those condemning him should wait until he died before burying him.

In a post on his Facebook wall, Omokri wrote: “Some of you are here on facebook spitting venom on Apostle Johnson Suleman for an accusation whose veracity you are not sure of.

“I just read from a fellow on facebook who wrote a statement with a lot of ifs. You are filled with ifs and yet you are making judgments? Rather than give the man the benefit of the doubt, you start casting aspersions and slurs.

“Do not wait until it happens to you before you know that there can be smoke without fire. If you have too much bile and venom inside you, then unleash on corrupt politicians. But before you bury Apostle Suleiman, I will urge you to wait until he dies.

“Apostle Suleiman, I do not think you are guilty, but no matter the case, in good times and bad times I will stand by you!”

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Two Fulani Herdsmen Killed In Southern Kaduna Amid Fears Of Renewed Violence

There are fresh fears of renewed violence in Southern Kaduna following the killing of two Fulani herdsmen were killed on Saturday afternoon, March 11.

The herdsmen were reportedly shot while herding cattle in Anguwan Yashi village in Jema’a local government area.
The National Assistant Secretary of Miyetti Allah Cattle Breeders Association, Ibrahim Abdullahi, told PREMIUM TIMES over the telephone those killed are Anas Shuaibu, 20, and Yahaya Musa, 14.

Mr. Abdullahi however called on the Fulani community in the area “not to take the laws into their hands and allow the security agencies do their job”.

He also appealed to the attackers to “please give peace a chance.”

The spokesperson of the police in the state, Aliyu Othman, confirmed the incident and said nine persons have already been arrested in connection with the killing.
He said the police was proceeding with investigation of the murder.

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‘President Muhammadu Buhari returns today’

Barring any last-minute changes, President\ Muhammadu Buhari is expected to return to the country today, the Presidency has said. Buhari left the country on January 19, for medical vacation for which he had sought extension twice through a letter to the National Assembly based on doctors’ recommendation for more rest.

In a statement by his Special Adviser on Media and Publicity, Femi Adesina, yesterday, the presidency expressed appreciation to Nigerians from across the country and beyond for their prayers and their best wishes while the president was away.

The Archbishop of Canterbury, Most Rev. Justin Welby, yesterday visited Buhari in London, United Kingdom. The meeting took place in Abuja House. Buhari posted pictures of himself and his guest on his Twitter handle, @MBuhari on Thursday afternoon.

The President wrote, “Very pleased to welcome the Most Revd and Rt Hon @JustinWelby, Archbishop of Canterbury, to Abuja House this afternoon.”
Buhari was dressed in a golden yellow prayer gown with white skull cap while Welby was in black suit with clerical shirt and collar.

In a related development, the Secretary to the Government of the Federation (SGF) has denied media reports that he said Nigeria Christians are wishing Buhari dead.

Some sections of the media had reported earlier in the week that SGF Babachir Lawal, during a prayer meeting in Israel for Nigeria, had criticised Christians for wanting Buhari dead.

A statement in Abuja yesterday by the Director Press in the Office of the SGF, Bolaji Adebiyi said the full text of the sermon could be found on the Facebook page of the SGF, where he called on Nigerians, irrespective of their religious affiliations to love one another, celebrate achievements of our leaders and desist from destroying our heroes.

“At no time, during the sermon, did the SGF castigate Christians in the negative manner reported in the story,” Adebiyi said.Meanwhile, the absence of the ailing president is generating mixed reactions in Abuja, the nation’s capital.

Ehiozuwa Johnson Agbonayinma, representing Egor/Ikpoba-okha in the House of Representatives, told The Guardian in Abuja that there is no need for Nigerians to be worried about the absence of the President.

Agbonayinma said that as a human being, the president can take ill and all that is expected from Nigerians are prayers for him to recover and return to his duties.

Ahmed Abubakar, a law student at the Kogi State University said there’s nothing to be worried about over his absence.However, Florence Idoga, a prison warder, expressed frustration over the lingering issue. According to her, the suspense is too much.

A petty trader, Mrs. Victoria Osiwere said: “Everyday, they keep postponing the date of the president’s arrival. What are they really hiding from us? We want to know the true state of health of our president.”

Meanwhile, there is tension in Anambra State over the planned pro-Buhari rally billed to hold in Awka, today with the branch of the All Progressives Grand Alliance (APGA) distancing itself from the event.

The State Secretary of APGA, Tony Ifeanya, yesterday condemned reports linking the party to the rally, warning that APGA has no hand and would not have any hand in such event. 

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